“What’s your zodiac sign?” might not be the first question you ask before getting into bed with someone, but there’s a reason you might want to get the details before hitting those sheets.
Turns out, the stars might be onto something when it comes to your love interests, as it’s safe to say sexual chemistry is a pretty important part of a relationship. And there are certain sexual traits and strengths you might have in the bedroom that can either turn your partner on or off, depending on his or her sign.
Of course, this isn’t to say that if you’re a Sagittarius you shouldn’t immediately turn away from a Cancer. But be warned, you might naturally have steamier sex with an Aries, Gemini, Leo, or Aquarius.
Still, no matter which sign you do choose to “woo,” taking a peek into your partner’s sexual tendencies can help you better understand likes and dislikes and how best to be in sync. So, what to expect? We chatted with astrologer Valerie Mesa for a few tips. Hopefully, not only will sex be more enjoyable, but also that passion will carry over into other areas of the relationship to create greater intimacy and trust.
Aries
In Astrology, Mars is the planet of passion and desire, and that passion will surely make its way into the bedroom.
“Those born under the sign of the ram are blessed with incredible stamina and red-hot passion running through their veins,” says Mesa. Aries’ warrior-like personality is aggressive and impulsive.
And, don’t be surprised if they take you in the heat of the moment. “Everything they lust is urgent, and their sexual encounters are spontaneous and action-packed. In the bedroom, Aries wants to completely dominate their partner. Their sex is intensely passionate and animalistic,” says Mesa.
And, no matter the gender, Aries likes to take charge. “The Aries man wants his damsel in a submissive sex position, and the Aries woman wants her lover where she can fully own him,” says Mesa.
One thing is for sure: Aries loves the chase. Just make sure you don’t keep an Aries waiting for too long; they’ll get antsy.
Best match for sex: Libra and Sagittarius
Gemini
Curious and full of mischief, Geminis are the tricksters of the zodiac. Ruled by Mercury, the messenger of the Gods, those born under the sign of the twins long for intellectual conversations with a high dose of mental stimulation, says Mesa.
“Quick and restless, their mercurial minds and multiple personalities become easily distracted,” so don’t be surprised if they’re constantly looking to play up different positions and games, she says.
And, Gemini keeps sex pretty light and fun. “For Gemini, romance feels playful and sex isn’t taken too seriously. The twins want to play a love game, and rest assured, they will seduce you in the process,” says Mesa. In the bedroom, both Gemini man and woman seek thrill and experimentation. But, this air sign approaches sex differently than the rest of the zodiac.
“Their ideal scenario consists of a ton of foreplay, purposely delaying the act of intercourse,” says Mesa. Oh, and bring on the sexting and the dirty talk! Words are a crucial part of their seduction technique, she explains.
Best match for sex: Aries and Aquarius
Cancer
Intuitive and nurturing, Cancers are the psychic empaths of the zodiac.
What does that mean, exactly? “Those born under the sign of the crab are naturally receptive and governed by their emotions. Ruled by the changeable moon, this water sign is a walking vortex of dreamy nostalgia and repressed feels,” says Mesa.
For Cancer, being in love consists of serious commitment and deep emotional intimacy, so don’t be surprised if they aren’t into casual flings or animalistic sex.
“The crab likes to feel safe and needed in their relationship — otherwise they will easily hide away in their shells forever. But, when comfortable and secure, the moonchild is sensual and deeply erotic,” she says. (Meaning: Passionate and submissive, Cancers will completely give themselves to their partner in the bedroom.)
Best match for sex: Pisces and Taurus
Leo
Similar to their sister sign Aries, Leo is enthusiastic and highly passionate. Ruled by the sun, those born under the sign of the lion are blessed with glowing charisma and an incredible presence, says Mesa.
Don’t be shocked if a Leo lights up a room. “Leo is the life of the party and the child of the zodiac, where their life is a stage and their ego plays a leading role,” says Mesa. Your Leo might expect admiration in the bedroom — but once you can see what Leo can do, you might be willing to give that praise, after all.
“This fire sign wants nothing more than to be loved, needed and admired. Flaunting their goods is a must when in relationships, and they expect their partners to do the same. Making love is an epic performance, and sexual fantasies are more than welcome,” Mesa says. Sex with a Leo is far from normal — it’s cinematic. (Here are a few tips for that powerful orgasm).
Best match for sex: Aries and Scorpio
Taurus
Contrary to fiery Aries, Taurus is patient and gentle. Ruled by planet Venus, goddess of love and beauty, those born under the sign of the bull like to take their sweet time indulging in the pleasures of life, says Mesa.
Yet, “don’t be fooled by their serene disposition — Taurus is stubborn and incredibly determined. Sensual and straightforward, this earth sign sees the world with its five senses and expresses sexuality through intense physical contact,” says Mesa.
And, they’ll shower you with affection and romance. (If you’re a sucker for rom-coms, listen up.) “Their romanticism stems from their ruling planet Venus, and their carnal instincts from their element,” says Mesa.
What to expect? “Making love with a Taurus consists of lots of kissing and touching. Raw and earthy, the bull wants a partner who likes to cook just as much as they like to cuddle. They want sex to be slow and irresistible,” she says. (Just like that meal.)
Best match for sex: Cancer and Capricorn
Virgo
Virgo might be a bit more precise and calculated in bed. “Notorious for their perfectionism and scrupulous personalities, Virgo is the devoted servant of the zodiac. Ruled by Mercury, the Virgoan mind is methodical and analytical; hence their sharp precision and attention to detail,” says Mesa.
And, get this: While in Astrology, the Virgin represents the sign Virgo, but when it comes to relationships, that Virgin lets loose, once comfortable.
“In love, this earth sign is critical and old fashioned, but after carefully analyzing and/or courting their significant other, Virgo will stop at nothing to please them,” says Mesa.
A tip? Take a shower before. “In the bedroom, clean surroundings and good hygiene are a must,” says Mesa. Or, you can even have sex in the shower, too.
Best match for sex: Capricorn and Scorpio
Libra
“Venusian and coquettish, Libra is the lover of the zodiac,” says Mesa, meaning this air sign is irresistibly charming and in love with love.
Ruled by Goddess Aphrodite, Libras feel their best when surrounded by beauty, and finding the perfect balance is their ultimate goal. But, here’s the tricky part. Falling in love with Libra isn’t the problem — it’s getting Libra to fall in love with you that’s the challenge, says Mesa
“Those born under the sign of Venus’ scales are blessed with the art of seduction, so turning them on isn’t going to be as easy as you think. If you’re interested in a Libra man, let him do the chasing. For them, sex isn’t nearly as important as feeling happy and fulfilled in the relationship. Dress to impress and bathe yourself in your most expensive perfume. Falling in love with you is their favorite part,” advises Mesa.
Best match for sex: Aries and Taurus
Scorpio
Ruled by karmic Pluto, planet of transformation and God of the underworld, Scorpio is the predator of the zodiac, says Mesa. So, they might hide their rawness under a cloak of fears and deep mystery, using intimidation as a factor in sparking intrigue and heat. “Both a blessing and a curse, Scorpios are born with a hypnotic aura and intense psychic abilities. Their life is an all or nothing experience, and their love life feels like a scene from Bram Stoker’s Dracula,” says Mesa. Scary? Hot? Both?
Connecting mind, body, and soul, when in love, this water sign throbs with desire and blood-red passion, and in the bedroom, they are carnal and taboo, says Mesa. A tip? Read Fifty Shades Of Gray in preparation and pick out a few fetishes to try.
Best match for sex: Leo and Virgo
Sagittarius
Ruled by Jupiter, Sagittarius is the most adventurous sign in the zodiac. Sounds fun, right?
“Optimistic and enthusiastic, those born under the sign of the archer long for travel, higher learning and new experiences,” says Mesa.
And, guess what — seducing this fire sign isn’t going to be difficult. “When in love, Sagittarius is transparent and open. What you see is what you get, and games are simply out of the question,” says Mesa. (Unless they are playful, sex games, of course.)
Natural thrill-seekers, spontaneous sex, and adventurous fantasies turn them on. And, don’t be afraid to ask your Sag to try out some new moves. “This fire sign is always in the mood to experiment, and they want the bedroom to feel like a brand new adventure,” she adds. A tip? Try tantric sex.
Best match for sex: Aries and Gemini
Capricorn
Wise and determined, those born under the sign of Capricorn make choices as though they were making an investment. Interesting.
Before taking a Capricorn to bed, he or she might want to get to know you better first and develop that intimate connection. “Ruled by serious Saturn, those born under the sign of the goat are naturally cautious and reserved. This earth sign needs to know exactly where they stand when in a relationship, otherwise it’s going no where,” says Mesa.
And, traditional and conservative, Capricorns resemble the sexual tendencies of that of a classic, Hollywood film. So, something to expect? Before getting to the bedroom, Cap might turn on some Mozart and open a bottle of fine wine, but once they start, it easily can turn into an all-nighter, says Mesa. The endurance of a Capricorn is pretty strong.
Best match for sex: Virgo and Scorpio
Aquarius
You got some smarts, Aquarius, but you’re also a tricky one to figure out. “Aquarius is the genius of the zodiac. Ruled by revolutionary Uranus, those born under the sign of the water bearer are natural-born visionaries and intellectuals. But, as they are logical and detached, Aquarius can easily be misunderstood,” says Mesa.
Similar to their sister sign Gemini, this air sign needs lots of conversation and mental stimulation before getting intimate. But, once you’ve locked that in, you’re in for a treat, says Mesa.
But be warned — commitment isn’t necessarily Aquarius-friendly, she says, as Aquarius value independence and freedom. So, they might be more inclined for a “friends with benefits,” first, perhaps, or just want to keep things looser before getting too serious.
And, they love to experiment and act on that wild, free-spirited passion, but that emotional detachment can still be present. “Sex can be a little messy – the more unconventional the better,” says Mesa.
Best match for sex: Scorpio and Gemini
Pisces
Ruled by elusive Neptune, those born under the sign of Pisces are spiritual and otherworldly, says Mesa.
So, they might appear highly mysterious and in tune with their surroundings. And being empathetic, Pisces feels best when they’re emotionally healing those around them, she adds.
“Their Neptunian dreams are psychic and colorful, as they were born with vivid imaginations. So, when in love, Pisces is romantic and seductive. Their partner’s needs come first and similar to their sister sign Scorpio, they long to merge both physically and spiritually,” Mesa says.
Don’t be surprised if Pieces is incredibly seductive. “Their sex is erotic and hypnotic, almost like a dream. Water is their kryptonite and half-asleep morning sex is a must,” Mesa adds. (So, you might want to save that coffee run for an hour or so after waking up).
Best match for sex: Cancer and Scorpio
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