When a Strong Woman Says Goodbye, There Is No Turning Back

A strong woman “loves, forgives, walks away, lets go, and perseveres,” a popular saying goes.

To be clear, a breakup is a traumatic experience no matter who you are; an in-charge, “alpha female,” however, handles a failed relationship a bit differently than the ordinary woman. Here’s how.

Let’s start with the “moment of truth.” You decide the relationship isn’t working and you break up with her. Alternatively, she realizes you aren’t a good match and elects to end things with you.

Would you expect her to feel shock? Do you think she will experience the deluge of complicated emotions that come with heartbreak?

You’d be correct in answering “yes,” but here’s the thing — for a strong woman, those feelings only last a short while.

The relationship you had, though it may have been special at one point in time, is still just one relationship. She won’t let any singular event define who she is or dictate how she should feel.

In truth, she’ll quickly come to accept your breakup with poise and grace, then set down the path of recovery without looking back. Will there be setbacks along the way?

Certainly, there will be. She may glance at an old picture, relieve some heartfelt memories, and long for things to have gone differently. She’ll never beg you to stay, however, and she’ll implore you to do the same.

She knows that no single person is her sole source of inspiration, fulfillment, or joy. She derives these things from life itself, so instead of focusing on what you’re doing after you’re gone, she’ll be focusing on herself.

She will steel herself for whatever challenges block the road ahead, but at the same time, she won’t let this bit of bad luck change her character.

She won’t become mean. She won’t be bitter. She will emerge from this trying time a better human in all respects — savvier, wiser, and more compassionate.

Make no mistake, while she’ll have stopped loving you (and there’s no changing that) her ability to love has not diminished, it has grown, along with her. That’s the way a strong woman walks away — for good, and always feeling better for it.

Source: higher perspectives

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