It’s every parents ultimate goal to raise successful kids in whatever matter they see fit.
We all strive for them to better themselves and naturally grow into well adjusted adults. Someone who feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment with their lives.
For a long time now, scientist have been studying the actions parents take and the factors they have on their children and the influence it has on their level of success.
And while the methods may vary depending on a child’s personality, there are some definitive things you can do to make sure your child is better positioned to be a successful adult.
1. Make them do chores.
Teaching your child responsibility for the environment around them is an important lesson to learn early on. It lets them know that things to don’t just magically get done by others. They are a part of making their surroundings a better place to live in for themselves and those around them.
In a 2015 Ted Talk, Juile Lythcott-Haims came to the conclusion that the majority of “successful adult participants” in her Harvard University study did chores as a kid.
2. Limit their screen time.
Long exposures to television, tablet or cell phone screens can have terrible long term effects on the undeveloped child’s brain. It severely shortens their attention spans and stunts their verbal and social skills.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics the set recommendations for a child’s screen time depending on age go as follows:
- 18 months and younger: No screen time at all, except for video chatting.
- 18-24 months: Parents who choose to introduce digital media should choose high-quality programming. You should also watch it with your children to help them understand what they’re seeing.
- 2 to 5 years: limit screen use to 1 hour per day of high-quality programs. Parents should co-view media with children to help them understand what they are seeing and apply it to the world around them.
- 6 and older: place consistent limits on the time spent using media, and the types of media, and make sure media does not take the place of adequate sleep, physical activity and other behaviors essential to health.
They also ask that you designate media-free times together. This can be things such as dinner or driving, as well as media-free locations at home, such as bedrooms.
3. Read to Them
Other than the sweet bliss of cuddling up with your little bundle of joy and taking them on a literary adventure, reading to them at a young age has been scientifically proven to give them a “lasting literacy boost.”
It’s also been proven to provide lasting verbal skills and help will problem solving.
4. Delay instant gratification
The idea to give your child instant gratification for every little thing they do could severely damage them as adults. It can desensitize them to reward and they begin to expect it without much if not any work.
When you teach your child patience and persistence before getting rewarded, it sets them up for taking on more difficult tasks in the future.
5. Let them fail
Sheltering your kid from failure could be one of the worst things you could do. While it may hurt to see our child fail at something, it’s one of the best things you can do for them. It helps one to realize things don’t come easy.
If we really want something, we are going to have to change our habits, and better ourselves. Failure also humbles them into understanding that they can’t and won’t win all the time.
6.Encourage them to Travel
Traveling is one of the most transformative experience for someone to undergo. It opens you up to new cultures and ways of living. Exposing your child to travel early will expand their consciousness beyond the limitation of any little towns small mindset that one can fall in to.
The Student and Youth Travel Association recently released a survey that analyzed the effects travel has on students in the US. Among many beneficial effects, they found that travel helped students increase their curiosity and willingness to learn, explore and grow.
They also concluded that it made students more tolerant and respectful of different people and cultures.
7. Encourage their passions
Whatever your child is showing an interest in, make sure you fan those flames. Let them know you support their talents and encourage them to pursue it as far as they can.
Most parents like to push their children into things they think would be the best for them, even if they don’t like it. But the best thing you can do for them is let them see where their own passions take them
Source: The Powerful Mind